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Repressing and recycling feelings and emotions are two sides of the same coin.

Most of us recognize what repression is. Recycling is when we believe we are harmlessly “venting,” “sharing” or “expressing” feelings and emotions, but we’re only passing them through the mind, and then talking out loud our thoughts (reactions) about these emotions.

Both recycling and repressing lead to the same thing — stuckness, and eventually stagnation, in which hardened emotion turns into mental and physical conditions. The key is to let emotion flow as pure energy, in and out.  (more…)


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Wholly meeting pain

To truly and wholly and honestly meet pain as it arises in the emotional or physical body, the story must be released. The story is the defensive device we use to remain invulnerable to and separated from the stupendous, gut-wrenching, annihilating all-ness of pain. The story lives in the mind as thought, and by thinking about it, (telling it) and keeping it alive, we’re refusing to listen to Truth in pain. We think that getting validation for the story is bringing listening and healing (wholeness) to the pain, but actually (and ironically), validating the story gives life (longevity) to the story instead of giving Life (Love) to the pain — it makes the pain go unheard and never be allowed, embraced, digested and integrated. And so it festers, and becomes entrenched as disease and suffering. This is why the pointer to Truth is to wholly feel the pain and release the story. Without the story, without the ability to assign roles of villain, victim and hero, without the ability to deflect energy in blame, one truly and intimately knows pain — past the inflection of “death” — and Truth reveals “on the other side.”

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Many years ago, I played some squash and had the opportunity to enjoy a few lessons with the world-renowned Khan family of coaches in Seattle. I heard one of them say, “You don’t play squash to get fit, you get fit to play squash.”

Some years later when I was riding a profound low and a beloved guide wondered why I didn’t seek out music for healing, I heard my inner guru say, “You don’t do music to be healed, you must be healed to do/serve music!”  (more…)

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When we tune into a particular radio channel, we become extensions of that channel, channeling that content and allowing more and more of it to be created and manifest in the physical world. The channel (frequency) we tune into and align with is our contribution to creating the manifest world. And at any given moment, we can only be tuned into one particular radio frequency!

The thing that most of us find nearly impossible to perceive with our contracted 5-sense notion of reality, is that the channel (frequency) of a “problem” is discretely different than the channel (frequency) of its transformation, its metamorphosis. We remain tuned to the channel of the problem and expect a solution to come from knowledge and analysis of all the facts, the content of what is, the “data of the darkness” 🙂 And via our reactions to it all. All the while we’re only channeling (creating) more of the same into the manifest world, including via the “solutions” we invent and innovate in reaction, which are only new manifestations of the same frequency. Yes, there is “change,” and yet it’s only the same problem changing faces! (more…)

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All circumstance is the un-integrated past casting its shadow unto the present. A shadow left unconscious, denied the light of response-ability, owning, acceptance, gratitude and Love. Once integrated with a simple, “Oh, I see, thank you!” the shadow can dissolve into the embracing light of Love. Circumstance transforms into allowing, an easeful, fertile flow that one can gently float with in Oneness, instead of working against, around or over circumstance. This is the flow of Creativity, replacing the struggle of reactivity.

Creativity and reactivity are anagrams. In the former, we C first 🙂

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A beloved saathi (co-traveler) recently wished to explore with me, how she might best hold space for a group of people in intense pain  – a group with factions stuck in a stalemate, divided by discrimination history and its longstanding pain, blame and shame. (This endeavor is presently both her calling and her role in her job.) She acknowledged that all outward mediation and facilitation efforts tend to fail; everything has been attempted, only putting everyone squarely back in the stalemate, with increasing animosity. Yet, she must fulfill her role, with all her heart.

From our exploration emerged this possible way of “holding space” – to become the void into which pain ends.


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This can be an impossible paradox to get: Any “dis-ease” – societal, physical, mental or otherwise – is the beginning of healing. Prior to the disease manifesting, some sort of repression is simmering unseen. Recognizing the disease as our friend in disguise and becoming grateful to it takes us toward healing. But, of course, we react to the disease and want a cure, not the healing! We feverishly busy ourselves with the list of symptoms, the diagnosis, the prognosis, the complicated medicines and treatments, and the suspense, misery and drama of it all… except to simply and compassionately and holistically see what was simmering underneath, always within us to see! That would take immense courage – we’d have to recognize and embrace our triggers toward the disease and toward “loss” and “death” – and yet, the reward is truly living. Without suffering pain, fear and hatred, in Love. The disease may or may not be cured, but our healing** becomes assured.


**Etymology of ‘healing’ is the same as ‘whole.’ So, healing = a return to our inherent wholeness.


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