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Each time we think or speak of our Love “for” (or “of”) someone, we could experiment with omitting the “because.” Instead of I love XXX, followed by a long and admiring list of, They are so…, we could simply try on, I love XXX. Period. We could experiment with omitting their qualities, whether perceived as “superficial” (beautiful, talented, smart, accomplished…) or “deep” (wise, kind, caring, evolved, soulful…) We could experiment with omitting their personality, their beliefs and values, their accomplishments and achievements, their circumstances, their life story… And we could get in touch with the choice-less-ness, the condition-less-ness, the “I-can’t-help-it-ness” of our Love (for them). Then we’ll know Love for the first time. Without armor or defense, condition or qualification. We’ll know Love as our very nature, independent of “the other.” We’ll know ourselves as the source of Love, and Love as the source of us. By dropping the qualities of the other, the “you” falls away from “I love you.” By recognizing the choice-less-ness, condition-less-ness, and I-can’t-help-it-ness, the “I” falls away too. And what remains, is only Love. We become naked and liberated in Love, freed of the burden of reason and justification. We see that “because” is the attachment, the bondage, keeping us believing that without the other and their acting this way or that way, we wouldn’t be (in) Love. We see that Love just is, no matter what.


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Here’s spiritual near-truth #11: The act of forgiving (another) frees us

Forgiveness as an act, is in the illusion, in the play! Forgiveness as realization, is that there’s nothing to forgive!

When we realize manifest experience as the projection of consciousness, we can also see that any interaction “within it” is a (co)creation. Once this creative power in Self is realized, there is no more question of forgiveness!

To expand, let’s say we’re in a play together, and you (agree to) play my mean and ignorant neighbor, who says horrible (let’s go there: racist) things to me. You agree to this role in my play, and I agree to the role in yours! And so, we have a play together, each playing roles relative to the other. (One-Self is playing something out as “two.”) The play can only occur via agreement to experience something together. (more…)

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How someone behaves toward us (whether “good” or “bad”) has nothing to do with how much they love us!

Although we like to credit actions (“actions speak louder than words”), except in moments in which we are completely aligned in Self (which is Love), words, behaviors and actions arise habitually from conditioning. One conditioned identity meets another conditioned identity, and what ensues is a perfect match of needs (expectations) negotiated between two illusory entities. This isn’t Love; it is simply two masks with matching grooves, executing an (unconscious) agreement to keep the illusory existences of both masks alive! And yet, all the while, what exists in Truth right behind the mask, is always and only Love. Love permeates the masks.

In loving (someone), all we need to attend to, is accessing Source/Self and the Love that shines forth toward the one we perceive as the other. (more…)

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When there is alignment (in Self), intention falls away. What is intended in universal wholeness simply happens (through us).

We recognize this in moments in which something someone says or does feels so, so kind, when all the while they aren’t trying to be so. They are simply being the way they are being, and we experience kindness in all its intensity and all its subtlety, all at once.

In these moments, there is no doer, or done unto. There is only kindness.

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The compassion of pure Love is to hold someone who’s not where they want to be, in one’s wholehearted awareness and attention, without losing one’s own alignment in Source/Self; that is, without losing connection with supreme well-being (for both). This means seeing them as they are in Self rather than focusing on the specifics of (and fueling the narrative of) how their mind/ body/ personality/ identity is experiencing suffering. It is common for the question to arise in the mind about “meeting someone where they are” … and where someone already always is, is the Self. Focusing on the identity aspect as a way of “meeting someone where they are,” is like taking their temporarily disheveled clothing to be them. We may lovingly assist in soothing or smoothing out wrinkles in the material realm, without mistaking the clothing to be the true being.

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Advice is the projection of personal bias, belief pattern or preference unto another. Guidance in Love sees and points to what (your) Self has already expanded into, which ‘you’ (the mind/identity) may be unable or unwilling to see. Such a guide is like a blank mirror — (your) Self reflected. They simply get ‘you’ out of the way (just as they have ‘me’ out of the way)! (Once finely attuned to Self, we can see the guidance in every bit of advice too 🙂 Then there is guidance everywhere — only Self reflecting Self all around!)

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True celibacy is the state of spontaneous cessation (dissolution, not repression) of all sexual urge or impulse or need arising in the body or mind, without (mandating) exclusion of physical union. This means that all conditioning, reactivity, emotional uprising and attachment have dissolved at the level of physical body. The “abstinence” in the celibate is of these things; it has nothing to do whatsoever with whether actual physical union is experienced or not.

Actually, to the contrary, it is the true celibate who can cease sex and begin lovemaking, the act of sacred physical union from the Heart center!! Lovemaking happens when the physical act transcends all need and is purely an inspired giving-receiving of Love in the physical. (more…)

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