Posts Tagged ‘Acceptance’

[Adaptated into an essay in my book Thrive! Falling in Love with Life, published Nov 1, 2011.]

A few months ago, one of my dearest friends and I were having a conversation about life, the difficulties in practicing architecture independently, the state of the economy (and the nation, and the world…), and a variety of such topics. He seemed somewhat irate, but really, genuinely disappointed, even deeply sad, that things were as they were.

Then I said it. “Breaking through some painful turns in life, I’ve discovered that – paradoxically – one can only change something by first accepting it. External change is brought about by changing oneself internally, through acceptance. If I first accept the way things are, then the foundation for change is immediately laid.”

He looked confused, and vehemently protested. “But that doesn’t make any sense! How can I accept the way things are? Isn’t that tantamount to agreeing with the status quo, to permitting mediocrity, to giving in? Isn’t acceptance essentially defeat? How can anything change by accepting defeat? Explain to me what you mean by acceptance!” He demanded. (more…)

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